High Dream, Low Dream: to which one you’re more attached?

Do you sometimes think that you’re all good to go to apply the learning from a course you took?

This is wishful thinking because the learning is not fully integrated just by being exposed to it. Not even if we teach it to someone else unless we put it in practice so many times that it becomes a new habit.

Why I’m telling you all these?

I recently assisted at one of the courses I took in 2009. It’s a three-day intensive course. The first two days I’ve revisited some of the concepts and tools learned back then. Everything was familiar, and I even remembered when I used them with clients or in my workshops.

The last morning though, while eating my breakfast, I had a light bulb moment! Suddenly, two of the revisited concepts connected me with past experiences …

Did I make you curious? 🙂

First, let me explain briefly those two concepts:

1. Relationship Myth Change

At the beginning of a new relationship, an original myth gets created based on the common expectations of those forming the relationship. After a while, a specific situation occurs and affects the relationship: the myth changes. Think for example what happens to a couple when they have a baby, or one of them loses the job, or wants to return to school, or children leave the nest, etc. Without taking the time to discuss how they would like their relationship to be given the new conditions, and make the appropriate adjustments, the relationship could face difficult moments and even fall apart.  

2. High Dream, Low Dream

When we think about something we’d like to have in our life, we create a High Dream (we think about how great would be to have it and explore the details in our mind) and a Low Dream (“I can’t have this because … “). It’s ok to have both High and Low Dreams because each of them could bring different elements into our attention.

The question is, to which of them are we more attached: the High Dream or the Low Dream? Because the more we spend time thinking about one of them, the more we facilitate that dream to enter our reality. How? By being too attached to the Low Dream, we miss the energy and inspiration that comes from connecting with the High Dream, which could hinder our ability to realize it. Being too attached to the High Dream leads to ignoring the pitfalls the Low Dream signals, allowing them to become huge roadblocks on the path of reaching the High Dream.

Let me get back to that morning, to understand how these concepts helped me get that light bulb moment. Looking through the window at the bright sunny day, I had a flashback about the period of time when I’ve started my business. It was a myth change of the relationship I have with my career path: going from employee to building a business. While I had a High Dream about what I wanted back then, I’ve suddenly realized that most of the time since I was actually attached to my Low Dream (I can’t … because … ) !!! Which drained my energy so much that I wasn’t able to think clearly and take the right actions to build my business faster.

What a realization, I was in WOW! A wave of energy and enthusiasm spread out through my body and lasted the whole day … and even after! Getting in touch more often with my High Dream would have allowed me to interpret better the messages from my intuition, and gave me more energy to grab the opportunities that came along!

Now your turn:

Think of a situation you’re in right now, and the outcome you’d like it to have.

Are you more attached to your High Dream or to the Low Dream? What can you learn from the other one, to help you get closer to the desired outcome?

Gabriela